How to talk about money
Talk to a partner, family member or friend – someone you trust. Here, we look at the benefits of talking about money and how to start the conversation.
Many of us have similar expenses, from food and utility bills to car insurance. You never know – you could be paying more than you should be. Talking to others about what they pay can provide some valuable insight. They may even share tips on how to save money, from discounts you could use to benefits you could claim.
From who pays the bill on your first date, to going on holiday with friends, money can come up in conversation. It can be especially tough if one of you earns less than the other. Being open and honest may help make a, potentially awkward, situation easier.
If money worries are making you anxious, you’re not alone. Research by the Office for National Statistics suggests over a third of us feel stressed when we think about money. Whether you’re worried about bills, debt or just want to chat, there are lots of people who can help.
Here are a few tips to help you have a conversation about money:
A subtle way to bring up finances is to share a money goal of your own. For example, you could be saving to buy a new pair of trainers or to pay off a credit card. This may help the other person open up about their goals and worries.
It can help to create a money goal together to help keep you both accountable. By naming and dating your goals, you have something specific to aim for. For example, this could be becoming debt free in 5 years, buying your new home in 2022, or retiring at 60.
Not everyone has the same attitude when it comes to money. Some like to spend in the ‘here and now’, whereas others prefer to save every penny. If you’re thinking of investing, you may also have different attitudes to risk.
Try to be open with the other person and respect each other’s opinion. To get an idea of their attitude to money, you could ask, “If you won some money, how would you spend it?”
Talking is a good thing, but sometimes our emotions can take over. To avoid the conversation being about who is and isn’t good with money, try to focus on actionable things you can do. For example, you could set up a standing order to put money aside for savings, or set up Direct Debits to make sure bills are paid on time.
Having a goal is one thing, but you need to be able to reach it. To help you succeed, we have lots of financial fitness guides, tools and calculators you can use. We break things down into manageable steps to help you get to where you want to be.
If you have money worries and are worried about debt repayments, find out how you can get in touch with us here.
If someone is controlling your money, running up debts in your name or stopping you from being financially independent – this is known as financial abuse. It can happen to anyone.
Talking about money to the person who is controlling your finances is often difficult. If you’re in this situation, it’s important to talk to someone you trust, first, and seek help. You can also talk to us, as there are ways we can help.
No matter what your financial situation looks like, it’s good to talk.
1Office for National Statistics: Personal and economic wellbeing in Great Britain, January 2021